Wednesday, April 6, 2011

Bling Bling does not equal Love

It's not the size of the diamond nor dreams one promises to fulfill, but the reality one brings that matters most. Money comes and goes, and dreams are never ending, but the qualities of character one has now... those are everlasting.

Nana Bear has been telling everyone how she wants an engagement ring and could she wear one to school and ask a boy to marry her.  All very cute for a 5 (and a half) year old and Tiger Daddy and I don't know whether to laugh or cry at these stories.  What I do know is that between the tween shows on TV (which we don't allow Nana Bear to watch) and other outside influences, I have to be ever vigilant about instilling a non-materialistic outlook in my children.  I even have family members telling us that Nana Bear should not accept engagement rings less than 1 carat.  If I personally believed that, Tiger Daddy and I would not be married, and I would not have these two wonderful children. 

Now, I'm not saying that financial stability shouldn't be important or shouldn't be a factor in choosing a spouse.  I knew that Tiger Daddy and I would be able to live a comfortable life with pretty things even if we didn't yet have those things (and in some cases we still don't).  I had faith in us, in our collective ability to carve out a good life.  And everyone is different and has different desires in life, different qualities they want in a partner. My list of needs in a partner will be different from yours, but I hope that Nana Bear (and Dare) learn that the important things in life and in marriage rarely come from money and a rock on her finger will not ensure that her mate will take care of her, nor is it in proportion to how much her mate loves her. 


  1. I've been married almost 20 years and I've never had an engagement ring . Thanks for your lovely visit today , It's nice to meet you !

  2. Thanks for visiting my blog and for your lovely compliment. You should have a try crocheting with beads. Threading the beads on is the frustrating part but after that it's good fun and very effective.

  3. The mini bean bags are charm squares sewn together :-)